EXACTLY..!!!!! I now send my son to a new school. He has been going to this school for the past 1 month. In my blog, I will only mention the impacts of both schools upon my son. Without stating the school name. Ced started going to pre-school when he was age 2. I was lucky that he did not fuss when going to school, instead, he likes going to school. Unlike other parents, I did not have issue sending him to school. At least, in the past. He would very delighted to get off the car and carried his own bag and walked into the school compound all by himself. When he started using more words, he would wave and say byebye mummy! and disappeared into his school :) That was the most longing memory I had. As several months had past, the school announced new management was taking over and new teachers were replacing the existing ones. Since then, my son slowly showed signed of being abused and gradually LOATHE SCHOOL!!!
How do I know for sure that he was being abused in school?! I used to hire a maid just to look after him since he was a baby. I had googled and read alot on signs of being abused. As I know that I would leave him behind with maid while my husband & I went for work and out. At least signs were the good guidelines for me to know his welfare while we were not around. Fret not, we always left him with maid at my parents place. So, all was well :) Without further ado, let me share my experiences:-
Ced started to unwilling to get off the car. With more coaxing, he eventually would get down. This had been awhile for almost a month before he moved into Stage 2 severity. He then told me he did not want to go to school once he woke up. Then again, lingered more time when reached the school. A month was up, for the next month was my worst nightmare of sending him to school. He would cry and fuss from home till school. Once reached school, he would cry even louder and screamed and worst, refused to get into the school compound at all!!!!! It was so heart-wrenching when my son would screamed for me and called out my name so thunderous and cried so hysterically when I left, that it sparked me that he surely was being abused in school. His screamed was not normal misbehaving type, it was more on MUMMY, HELP!!! I asked the principal and teachers there of why he had sudden attitude changed, all they did was only to convince me he was all right after I left. I did not know why out of a sudden, 2 teachers came to me and leaked out that one of the teachers there beat him before and they looked so worried facial expression. After I probed more, they refused to tell me. I was even more convinced that my worried was right. As my son always will come home telling us what happen in school such as, "teacher ta-ta (beat), teacher ma-ma (scold)", I purposely told the principal that my son always tells us things. Only then, she admitted to me that one day she was in bad mood and yet my son refused to nap. So, she popped a ballon right on top of my son's head just to scare him. And she did twice!!! So, off I go school hunting again to look for a new school for my son. I know that if I do not change the environment, it will only give more negative impacts on my son's growth welfare. Ced used to have nightmares daily and even talked in his sleep. He said "teacher pu yau (don't)" several times and cried in his sleep. From a jovial toddler, he changed to bad tempered and stubborn.
At new school, I can only say I am truely impressed with the school. Even my husband agreed and said lucky we changed him to new school. Only a few days here in new school, Ced portrays much calm attitude. He does not come home brandishing or lashing or releasing hatred or upsets. He does not have nightmares and does not cry or talk in his sleep. Just last night, I heard him laughing twice in his sleep :) He used to wake up angrily and crying. But no more now. For the past week, he has been eating by himself without me feeding and he eats quite clean :) He does not allow me to brush his teeth neither him brush by himself. After school taught him, automatically, he brushes his teeth at home too :) He even reminded me was time to brush teeth once. hehehe..He talks more now. I found out that he uses more words and he uses the words correctly. He can now talk longer statement instead of single word expression. Quite a huge step improvement. Comparatively to old school, attended 6 months and yet see not much advancement.
Well, things do not always work along your plan or wish. He still refuses to go to school. Every morning is like a warzone at home between him and I. Take longer time now as I do not want to force him too much which resulted him crying all the time. I will just keep convincing him as much as I can or I shall say, as much as he lets me talk to him. Cause, sometimes, he does not want us to reason with him with our grandmother stories :) BUT. hehehe, aahhh yes, my but is in capitals, because how unwilling he is with me at home or how he struggles not to get into my car, upon reaching school, when principal approaches my car to take him into school compound, he will always go to the principal with open arms..hahaha...funny isn't it? He will obediently wave and say byebye mummy..he is crying lesser now and once he did not cry at all. One thing for sure, he did not scream anymore. He talks to the teachers there and wave byebye and willing to say byebye teacher when I fetch him from school. Comparatively, he refused and never talk or wave or say byebye teacher at his old school. Even the teachers in old school said byebye to him, he just turned away. Now, in this new school, whenever teachers talk to him, he will have eye contact with them and nod or said zhi tao (know). I realized Ced is more discipline after attending this new school. I just hope, he will one day finally come to term that he needs to go to school no matter what. And this day, please come fast!!! hehehehe...
A little adventure - after I stopped Ced from his old school, an old teacher Ced always clinged on to called me using her own personal line. She told me she had since resigned from that school and asked me why Ced stopped school. I do not know how she comes by the news. After sharing what I wrote above, she said yes. The reason she resigned was she cannot accept new management style. You will be in shocked when you read what I am about to leak:- Kids there are like being confined into a prison cell life-like. There is this teacher called 'L' who is very fierce towards the kids and typically the kids there spend their time in class, after class will go down for meal time, after meal time must sit tightly on their chair. Whoever moves, will be scolded and beaten. Hence, this old teacher told me that this is Kindyland not Standard 1. Kids at such age how can they sit still? They must play around and cannot only have class and eat and still. She strongly disagrees with such cruel treatment. The more she fights for the kids welfare, the more complaints she received from L. L will report the matter to management and subsequently, this old teacher resigned. She also hinted that Ced knows alot of things and he knows the teachers' names. She said you try to ask him which teacher beats him, and he will say Teacher L. Those 2 teachers also mentioned Teacher L mistreated him. Without them telling me, I already suspected so. As, right from the start, Teacher L already showed disliked towards Ced. Each time she tried to come near Ced, Ced went hysterically afraid and despise her to get close to her. My son is an active kid, must be L cannot tolerate such behaviour. Resulting her using harsh actions against my son. But, to me this is unethical for a pre-school teacher. When I went to submit letter of withdrawing from school (requested to do so by the branch director there for refund deposit purposes), a kid ran here and there before hitting a toy and felled hurting his side pelvis. Teacher L said 'who ask you to run?' several times before proceeding to say 'veli good la veli good la'. OMG! what English is this? Another surprising part was she never even bothered to go to the kid to check him out. When his mother approached, she quickly came forward and pat the kid's head and told his mom how good he is at school today. The poor boy was still holding his pelvis and half cried towards his mother and I overheard him telling his mother 'veli good'. LOL...Oh yeah, when the school started to suspect me knowing something had gone wrong, out of a sudden Teacher L tried to be nice and coaxed Ced when I dropped him off. Usually she would not come attend. She gave up when Ced refused to be close to her. She just walked away, lucky I was still there for my son to come for solace before another teacher saw what was happening and came to coax my son. Another point deducted as a pre-school teacher. To me, one must have patience and kindness as well as caring other wise how one can be a pre-school teacher? I also found out that the kids were getting lesser. The old teacher told me many of the kids have transferred to another nearby Kindyland. This new management had asked for additional payment. The school fees already expensive than the others and yet required me to top up more for school holidays program. Whereby, in new school, school fee is cheaper, holiday programs is 1 time off payment for 1 year school holidays programs. The best part is new school has school trip outing once a month to different location.
So to all parents out there who are reading my blogs, please be aware. School and teachers are very important/critical to our pre-school kids. Whether your kids be cheerful/sad, socialable/not are very much depending on the people around them. Proper educating, toddlers especially age 2.5-3 or even by 4/5, can show positive/negative growth. Just like what I have just shared above. Observation is also another critical action parents need to bear in mind. A good school will produce cheerful and bright students while degradable school will only produce hatred and crush attitude/character of the students. Please compare more schools' timetable before deciding which school to send your kids to. If you are the type unlucky to hit the right jackpot (school) for your kids, is ok and best to change. Find one that your kids adapt well to.
Monday 17 June 2013
Monday 10 June 2013
On the Passage to SULWHASOO :)
Every month I will be blogging on skincare and amazingly on different types of brands :) I am not sure how fair can my review be as I do not only use a single brand for more than 2 or 3 months. As I cleanses my face 3 times a day, so usually I split or finish up my purchase by choosing the best or the one I like most for day and night usage. The least favourite will be my evening use. Hence, this will be my final conclusion on Kanebo, Kiehl's, Biotherm & O'slee. After these, I will be moving forward to another luxury brand called SULWHASOO of Korea. I cannot wait it to reach my shore so that I can purchase and try the products out!!!!! The reviews of this brand is superb.
KANEBO
I still have some left over which I am using it during evening until eventually finish. Only good ones will I finish it. This brand works well on my pimple prone skin, large pores and dehydration skin. If you do follow my blogs, you know I meant Impress line. It really hydrates my skin but not longer enough as I am always in air conditioned room - sleep & working. I do not have breakouts when using this brand but only a few as in during menses. Large pores indeed seem smaller. Skin is supple. But one thing I do not like is after layering the skincare, somehow my skin tends to be oily. Even during layering, I can feel the products are still somehow sticky abit on the surface of my facial. On the other hand, I really do love Blanchir Clear Condition. I practically use up this on mask daily basis. So much soothing and helps my redness. This is my star product for Kanebo. As I am easily tempted, so I decided to try Sulwhasoo. Overall ratings for Kanebo is 4/5.
KIEHL'S
I have no negative reviews on Kiehl's. I simply just love its' Calendular toner, Red Earth Pore minimizing moisturizer, Midnight Recovery for eyes and oil. These just work wonder on my skin, especially Calendular toner. It really suppress my redness well, last longer and the pore minimizing moisturizer really control oils well and my pores look much more refine. Likewise, I do not experience breakouts only during menses. The clay mask also quite good as really removes impurities. Ultra Cleanser indeed mild but cleanses well. The drawback maybe is only for the Sunblock as is oily after application and after awhile later. I had since finished the toner and on the way finishing off the moisturizer and cleanser as well. Overall ratings for Kiehl's is 4.5/5.
BIOTHERM
This is my startup skincare after I was brokedown with blotchy redness skin after using MaryKay products. It worked so well on me but over time, my old problem kicks in. Redness, pimples on jawline/chin area (lymph-nodes) and enlarge pores came back. I did not manage to finish my 2nd round purchase of moisturizer, toner and serum. I only use it on off basis till it finishes. Most probably will use more frequently when I finish my Kanebo & Kiehl's. I am using its purefect range supposes to help on pimple skin but the drawback is dryness. Skin not hydrate enough and it does not help on my pores. If I use something abit rich for my hydration well, it turns out oily. Pro-long, pimples will pop 1 or 2. However, I quite satisfied with its facial service. As at now, I am still doing its facial on a monthly basis. Overall ratings for Biotherm is 3/5. 2 points being deducted out due to it cannot control my problem. No doubt, it helped on my blotchy skin and transformed to a flawless skin but alas, it did not last, hence, my old problems appear and yet it no longer works wonder or at least control.
O'SLEE
Hhhhmm....before this brand, I did try another drugstore brand called Nutox. Quite dissappointed with it and once again goes to this drugstore brand. I did review it is quite good for a drugstore brand, but besides skin much more whitens but it does not last. Only when using mask, skin is better but not on skincare on a daily basis. This still cannot give enough hydration to my skin. Not lasting at least. As for Nutox, seemed quite good at first but eventually caused pimples spots on my left cheek until now. As for O'slee, caused me some bumps and also some pimples popping. Not drastic but flaws. Eventually I lost interest in continuing. Not enough hydration means will cause oiliness. Initial use is ok and also seems good but after few weeks, result not that satisfying so I had stopped using completely. I will not use this anymore just like Nutox, will go down the bin. Poor me, wasted my money. I swore to myself, I will not use drugstore brand anymore :). Overall ratings for O'slee is 2/5. Besides not working so well, another point deducted due to I find this brand malaysia management not so honest. I bought online from its malaysian website and I was given sheetmasks and eye masks for free as gifts. Guess what I found? They trimmed away the expiry date part. So, the packaging is shorter than the original ones I bought. Then with more indepth checking, I found no expiry date section and that part already cut off. Therefore, another con for me to continue to use. I doubt the originality of the products. Not to say use it on my face!!
Sulwhasoo will be opening a counter in Parkson Gurney Plaza officially on 20th June 2013. I am an elite member of Parkson so I am cordially invited to Sulwhasoo Preview Event on this Sunday. I am so excited! :) I will be given a free gift set of 4 - First Activating Serum, Balancing Water, Balancing Emulsion and Ginseng Concentrated cream. I am using this set now - No, not given to me yet, I will only have the free set this Sunday - well, why I said I am using now??!! hehehe...With my inpatient attitude, I can't wait for a month. I found out about this brand back in May. So, I bought online from Qoo10 website. Took 2 weeks to arrive from Korea. So, I controlled myself not to review anything about Sulwhasoo as usually I am so tempted to do so after only 1 or 2 days applications. It's been a week into using Sulwhasoo now for day and night, so far I have no breakouts!!!! Amazing...my red spots on my cheek is greatly reduce. Skin is glowing but not oily. Last me whole day. Hydration level is good as I have less tendency to redness. My skin is just glowing with smooth suppleness. I just cannot stop looking myself at the mirror. LOL!! hehehe..i just envied the Korean moms in my son's school. They do not wear makeup but they have fair glowing skin. So, when I look abit like their skin after using Sulwhasoo, I just can't resist looking at myself from a mirror. hehehe...I can't wait to be consulted and shop for the brand!!! I usually have uneven skincolor for face and neck. Somehow, now seems more matching. I only can say I feel superb and the result definitely differ from above mentioned brands when I started using. If you follow my blogs, you will get what I mean. :) Keeping my fingers crossed!:) with my past experience, it may work now but not months later. So, I am not sure how fair this brand will be to me :) anyhow, I will blog about it more indepth after using.
KANEBO
I still have some left over which I am using it during evening until eventually finish. Only good ones will I finish it. This brand works well on my pimple prone skin, large pores and dehydration skin. If you do follow my blogs, you know I meant Impress line. It really hydrates my skin but not longer enough as I am always in air conditioned room - sleep & working. I do not have breakouts when using this brand but only a few as in during menses. Large pores indeed seem smaller. Skin is supple. But one thing I do not like is after layering the skincare, somehow my skin tends to be oily. Even during layering, I can feel the products are still somehow sticky abit on the surface of my facial. On the other hand, I really do love Blanchir Clear Condition. I practically use up this on mask daily basis. So much soothing and helps my redness. This is my star product for Kanebo. As I am easily tempted, so I decided to try Sulwhasoo. Overall ratings for Kanebo is 4/5.
KIEHL'S
I have no negative reviews on Kiehl's. I simply just love its' Calendular toner, Red Earth Pore minimizing moisturizer, Midnight Recovery for eyes and oil. These just work wonder on my skin, especially Calendular toner. It really suppress my redness well, last longer and the pore minimizing moisturizer really control oils well and my pores look much more refine. Likewise, I do not experience breakouts only during menses. The clay mask also quite good as really removes impurities. Ultra Cleanser indeed mild but cleanses well. The drawback maybe is only for the Sunblock as is oily after application and after awhile later. I had since finished the toner and on the way finishing off the moisturizer and cleanser as well. Overall ratings for Kiehl's is 4.5/5.
BIOTHERM
This is my startup skincare after I was brokedown with blotchy redness skin after using MaryKay products. It worked so well on me but over time, my old problem kicks in. Redness, pimples on jawline/chin area (lymph-nodes) and enlarge pores came back. I did not manage to finish my 2nd round purchase of moisturizer, toner and serum. I only use it on off basis till it finishes. Most probably will use more frequently when I finish my Kanebo & Kiehl's. I am using its purefect range supposes to help on pimple skin but the drawback is dryness. Skin not hydrate enough and it does not help on my pores. If I use something abit rich for my hydration well, it turns out oily. Pro-long, pimples will pop 1 or 2. However, I quite satisfied with its facial service. As at now, I am still doing its facial on a monthly basis. Overall ratings for Biotherm is 3/5. 2 points being deducted out due to it cannot control my problem. No doubt, it helped on my blotchy skin and transformed to a flawless skin but alas, it did not last, hence, my old problems appear and yet it no longer works wonder or at least control.
O'SLEE
Hhhhmm....before this brand, I did try another drugstore brand called Nutox. Quite dissappointed with it and once again goes to this drugstore brand. I did review it is quite good for a drugstore brand, but besides skin much more whitens but it does not last. Only when using mask, skin is better but not on skincare on a daily basis. This still cannot give enough hydration to my skin. Not lasting at least. As for Nutox, seemed quite good at first but eventually caused pimples spots on my left cheek until now. As for O'slee, caused me some bumps and also some pimples popping. Not drastic but flaws. Eventually I lost interest in continuing. Not enough hydration means will cause oiliness. Initial use is ok and also seems good but after few weeks, result not that satisfying so I had stopped using completely. I will not use this anymore just like Nutox, will go down the bin. Poor me, wasted my money. I swore to myself, I will not use drugstore brand anymore :). Overall ratings for O'slee is 2/5. Besides not working so well, another point deducted due to I find this brand malaysia management not so honest. I bought online from its malaysian website and I was given sheetmasks and eye masks for free as gifts. Guess what I found? They trimmed away the expiry date part. So, the packaging is shorter than the original ones I bought. Then with more indepth checking, I found no expiry date section and that part already cut off. Therefore, another con for me to continue to use. I doubt the originality of the products. Not to say use it on my face!!
Sulwhasoo will be opening a counter in Parkson Gurney Plaza officially on 20th June 2013. I am an elite member of Parkson so I am cordially invited to Sulwhasoo Preview Event on this Sunday. I am so excited! :) I will be given a free gift set of 4 - First Activating Serum, Balancing Water, Balancing Emulsion and Ginseng Concentrated cream. I am using this set now - No, not given to me yet, I will only have the free set this Sunday - well, why I said I am using now??!! hehehe...With my inpatient attitude, I can't wait for a month. I found out about this brand back in May. So, I bought online from Qoo10 website. Took 2 weeks to arrive from Korea. So, I controlled myself not to review anything about Sulwhasoo as usually I am so tempted to do so after only 1 or 2 days applications. It's been a week into using Sulwhasoo now for day and night, so far I have no breakouts!!!! Amazing...my red spots on my cheek is greatly reduce. Skin is glowing but not oily. Last me whole day. Hydration level is good as I have less tendency to redness. My skin is just glowing with smooth suppleness. I just cannot stop looking myself at the mirror. LOL!! hehehe..i just envied the Korean moms in my son's school. They do not wear makeup but they have fair glowing skin. So, when I look abit like their skin after using Sulwhasoo, I just can't resist looking at myself from a mirror. hehehe...I can't wait to be consulted and shop for the brand!!! I usually have uneven skincolor for face and neck. Somehow, now seems more matching. I only can say I feel superb and the result definitely differ from above mentioned brands when I started using. If you follow my blogs, you will get what I mean. :) Keeping my fingers crossed!:) with my past experience, it may work now but not months later. So, I am not sure how fair this brand will be to me :) anyhow, I will blog about it more indepth after using.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)